Contentment Is Not Joy

By October 3, 2014 Joy, Parenting No Comments

Contentment Is Not Joy

We at the ProudParent Foundation are dedicated to making lives better. In particular the lives of children. To do so we concentrate on the parent/child relationship since parents hold the predominant influence in a child’s life. Our purpose is to bring joy into a child’s life and by extension the lives of their parents.

Living a joy-filled life is not the same as living a life of contentment. Being content is not living in joy. Living a life filled with joy exponentially increases the richness of every human experience you have regardless of how big or how small.

What you will find in this site are examples of how to bring greater joy to your life. Ways to make joy a more permanent state of mind rather than a fleeting experience. This process begins inside each of us. It begins within our hearts. This is why we describe our perspective as “heart-centered.” Once you learn the process to become and then hold a perspective of heart-centered being, you will find pathways to greater and greater joy.

The following are a few words reposted from another site ( ) that are profound and capture the description of the importance of finding and holding joy. Visit the [pl_tooltip tip=”” position=”right”]link[/pl_tooltip] to view the full article.

Reposted In Part:

…That is your shared quality in this human experience more then anything. So if you’re not feeling this, if you’re not feeling a strong desire to continually enhance and expand your life experience in all kinds of ways, then you’ve in some way got that complacency thing going. Because this continual drive to discover more and more joy is your nature. Not more and more contentment, more and more joy.

So in fact you’ve have to kind of numb that drive a bit to not feel it. You’ve got to build a habit of tuning out your inner preferences in some areas of life, or deciding you’re okay with not having it, in order to not feel it. Of course this happens in life, when you don’t feel that confident about creating what you want.

But the thing is, now? You’re embracing your divine powers of creatorship! And the thing is, you experience this contentment. And we understand that it’s an achievement. Because so much of human life was not really that peaceful, and many of you really want to savor this thing that you think of as peacefulness, which is really just contentment. Which is really just “no more trauma.” And we understand this. And we know you are enjoying feel more of it. So we encourage you to soak it up — that’s all good and wonderful. But we want you to remember it’s not the destination.

Contentment is NOT JOY. It’s really not joy. It’s clearly, definitely NOT JOY. And YOU WERE MADE FOR JOY.

So, tolerating contentment is a bit like a distraction from, actually, the quite excellent stuff available to you! And which you have spent a long time creating. Even if your version of tolerating contentment is really a lot more like enjoying contentment, we are here to prod you and remind you and even kind of nag you a bit and say, don’t sit there and get so distracted by that, that you forget you came here for exquisite radiant, bubbling over joy.

Those moments in life when you’re laughing so hard your face turns red? Meredith had some of this delicious experience yesterday, those moments are the reminders that it’s ALL mean to be like that. Not necessarily that literal experience, but at a pitch, energetically, which is much higher than contentment and a lot more like laughing so hard your face turns red!

You see, lovely ones, the truth is, and this is the issue, so we’re going to talk about it quite directly and then about what to do about it: you’re not really used to positive intensity. And you really hate negative intensity. It doesn’t feel good to feel quite intense feelings that you would view as negative. And the truth is, you’re not used to sustained positive intensity. What you would called positive emotion.

You’re not really used to the intensity of sustained, exquisite joy.

Because, actually, sustained, exquisite joy is super fast vibrating energy. And you didn’t have the capacity for it before. Now you’ve got the energetic capacity for it. But you have to build kind of, an emotional affinity with having this experience more often and longer!

You gotta build it! You actually might be surprised to learn that the truth is, you actually tend to shy away from exquisite, exquisite energies like joy. You tend to prefer the calmer, gentler stuff. You tend to think that’s the aspiration. Realize that this comes from your own experiences being so challenging, not because it’s the actual destination.

It’s great to have contentment as your go-to emotion, rather then rage, or grief, or irritation. But it’s a lot better to reach even higher and to grow your capacity for joy. And then to grow your capacity for bliss and most of you don’t have it yet. You don’t have it yet — you don’t have that familiarity to handel the fast-moving, high vibration stuff all the time.

But you came here choosing to insert yourself into a realm where you were determined to get there, in the material. To bring the material into a new, higher standard for vibration. To merge with all that you are. And to do this while retaining your connection to all that you are. And then becoming, through resonance, an Ambassador to Earth for other aspects of your lineage to discover all this, with you, through you, as you, as we talked about yesterday.

That is the point. And so to really embrace our message yesterday. To start to host your Cosmic Family on Earth more and more. The point is not to create a guest room and spend all this time on that. The point is to get used to higher frequencies more and more often and give up contentment and reach for JOY. Reach for bliss. Don’t stop at contentment.

Reach for fantastic, expansive experiences of freedom. And start to cultivate your new set-point, ideally, some thing higher then contentment. Something more like hope, or even enthusiasm. And when you can get to enthusiasm more and more often. And eagerness? Which are really words for happiness. Happiness is really eager and enthusiastic. Then you are going to find that thing you’ve missed and wanted for so so long, so here is the carrot that we’re using to lure you forward.

When you get to eagerness and enthusiasm, you’re going to find your zest for life. Because you’re going to feel that thing that you human beings call PURPOSE. Purpose. Because you’re going to be, in happiness in eagerness, and in enthusiasm, you’re gonna be right on the brink of passion. And that is really what most of you are not feeling right now. You’ve changed so much, that you haven’t really felt like doing much. And this is because you’ve been integrating the energies. Building your energy structure. And also getting more and more comfortable with all the change in your life, your jobs, your relationships, your feelings, your understanding, your energy level.

So a lot has been going on … and in this year of 2013, you have completely reformatting your body to play in the New Earth energies. And the way you will most joyfully do that is with one another. And in creation. In acts of creation and co-creation or collaboration. And in sharing fun and joy. And the way to get more used to what you’ve got going on, is to continue to deepen your self-love. To really pay attention to the things large and small, that you have been tolerating, but could really go from good to sensational.

And to be willing to take the time to do this. To go within, and in unison, revise your energy structure and your stories, and your expectations — all of this is really just revising your consciousness, right? And so you’re building your capacity for higher vibrations and vibrations that are higher than contentment. And you work into more happiness, more and more of the day. You reach for eagerness and enthusiasm and happiness. And you CULTIVATE your ability to stay in those feeling states more and more often and it’s actually going to be practice for you!

It’s going to be practice for you because I’m telling you quite directly: you have tended to shy away from sustained intensity. Of any kind. Including the good stuff.

So. There were reasons for this in the past, but they’re gone now. And for what your Cosmic Family is coming for, in part, is to see and experience this exquisite New Earth with you. But also! They’re coming to support and assist you. To amplifying your energies by merging with you! And expanding your consciousness by merging with you, so you can create! And for you to do this, in the way you’ve intended, you have got to grow your capacity for the intensity of passion and freedom.

And in doing this, re-discover your unique drive. For expressing your essence. Which is what you think of as purpose and what we’re calling passion. Your unique passions for life and in these arenas in which you feel this, create. THAT what’s opening up for you next. And in order to really claim this, you have to take the time, to go within, to revise the things that you kind of gotten yourself used to that are kind of “okay” or good, but that aren’t really great. And you’ve got to become accustomed to being in more sustained, elevated vibrations, longer and longer. In a sense, facilitating your familiarity [ and comfort* ] with the intensity of JOY.

We look forward to your capacity for this becoming more familiar and growing, because this is really what you wanted all along.

Reposted in part from:, by Meredith Murphy, Wed. January 1, 2014, tilted: How To Tune To and Live From Your Purpose